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Being A Good Dad

Being a good dad is tough. I’m only in control of myself. Which means that I need to influence a youngster to do what’s right without any control.

Being a dad is the best thing that’s ever happened to me, but also the most challenging. Especially with my anxiety and ADHD. I worry a lot and stress about the small stuff quite a bit. Ultimately I need to remember that everything will workout okay and to roll with what life gives me.

My 7 year-old has a mind of his own, as he should. He is very headstrong and wants to be independent, but he also wants to know that I’m here if he needs me to help.

The trick is to give him just enough freedom to feel like he has some control over his life, but not too much where I and/or my wife can’t keep him safe.

When he was young (baby and toddler age) he needed me all the time. Then I was looking forward to these independent years. But now that we’re here, I miss him needing me.

Now I have to walk a tightrope of when to help him and when to leave him alone to do his own thing. I’m not going to lie, it’s tough — really tough.

All I can do is be here for him and help him on his journey. Try not to drive him crazy by being over bearing, but being present enough for him to know that I care and love him. Because I do, with all my heart.

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I Wouldn’t Trade My Time With My 3-year-old Son for Anything

Seth & Ilan
So many of you know (those who I’m close too, at least) that when my son, Ilan, was born, he had some issues to get sorted out at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia. 3 years later he’s doing amazing.
 
3 months ago my adorable, beautiful niece Chloe was born with the same bowel obstruction that Ilan had. She spent 3 months in the NICU at CHOP. She’s finally home. I was lucky enough to finally meet the little miracle baby.
 
When I was about to leave, my her parents house, my brother-in-law asked me if I wished Ilan (with all his crazy 3 year-old-ness) was back to being Chloe’s age and less “crazy.” I told him, no. I wouldn’t trade Ilan at age 3 for anything.
Forget about the health issues when he was young, Ilan now is such a vibrant, happy, spunky, adorable, loving, amazing, incredible, little human being. I wouldn’t trade this age for anything, well maybe the craziness. But even with that, kids grow up so fast. Right Mom?
 
Parents need to soak up ever minute of every stage, regardless of the craziness, because before we know it, our little kids will be big kids and eventually adults.
 
I Love You Ilan. With All My Heart!
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On Being A Father – To Blog or Not To Blog

Mommy, Daddy, Parent Blogging
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Mommy/Daddy Bloggers – More of one than the other?

So, I read a lot online. From technology to current events to parenting sites. What I’ve noticed about the last topic, parenting sites, is that there seems to be more “Mommy Bloggers” than “Daddy Bloggers” out there. I know the roles are different. Often, especially in the past, the mother tends to be the nurturing one and the dad is the disciplinarian/work-a-holic. But this has changed drastically over the years.

Now, I know there are lots of “daddy bloggers” out there, but for some reason, they don’t surface nearly as much as the “mommy bloggers.” Maybe the mommy’s are better at SEO? Maybe it’s who I’m following? Who knows. It could be that, women, tend to be more outgoing and want to share more? That’s definitely not the case in my house. I’m the sharing, outgoing one. My wife is still awesome and very social, but much more reserved than me.

My thoughts on being daddy to my little guy

Kid in airplane at airportMy wife and I have an amazing, spunky, sassy, amazing 3-year-old little boy. He’s truly my “mini-me” personality and everything (yes, my wife deserves a medal). Everyday is a new adventure. He’s growing up quickly and we have to constantly adapt, to his changing needs and growing independence. This is much easier for my wife, but I’m adapting slowly.

Both my wife and I are hard workers. And most of time, I’m the daycare dad, who drops the kiddo off and picks him up. I usually get dinner ready for my tired wife. I bathe the little critter and help with bed time. I love being active in raising my little guy.

I’ve often thought about starting a blog, or a section on this site, about my experiences. The more I think about it, the more I realize that my struggles, challenges, and triumphs with my little guy are similar to many other dads and parents. So my plans to create a blog dedicated to just fatherhood/parenthood will probably never come about. Though, the idea of blogging occasionally about my experiences intrigues me.

What are your thoughts on the whole “parent blogging” arena? Do you blog about your experiences as a parent? Do you read a lot of these blogs? Tell me your experiences in the comments.